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I'm Caring for Someone With Incontinence

Leaks and accidents are hard on both of you. You may be tired of laundry and worried about what comes next. This page gives a few practical steps.

Start with the doctor

Tell the doctor. Incontinence is a medical problem, not something to be ashamed of. It can often be treated, and the first step is to see a doctor. Say this out loud to the person you care for, too.

Toileting routines

  • For bladder leaks, ask the provider about urinating at set times, every 2 to 4 hours.
  • At night, stop drinks 2 to 4 hours before bed and empty the bladder before bed.
  • For bowel leaks, a doctor may suggest bowel movements at set times, such as after meals.

Skin care

  • Clean the skin right after urinating.
  • Wash gently with warm water. Do not scrub.
  • Change soiled underwear as soon as you can.
  • Ask the doctor or a health care professional about a moisture-barrier cream.

Products and outings

  • Absorbent pads inside underwear are the most common treatment for bowel leaks.
  • Water-resistant sheets protect the mattress.
  • When you go out, bring a bag with cleanup supplies and a change of clothes.

Dignity

Keep it private and matter-of-fact. Let the person do what they can for themselves. Talk about it as a health issue.

When to get help

Talk to the doctor if leaks start, change, or are not improving. Ask them what fits your situation. If you are overwhelmed, call or text 988.